It was interesting to see this post by hooizz right after Neal and I had a discussion about whether I should put our engagement photos on here. (Both because I’ve not had discernable photographs of myself on here and because one commenter on the post above it speaks of a taller man making her feel “feminine” and Neal is quite a bit bigger than I am [which is shown by the picture of him carrying me on his back]: one foot and one inch. It doesn’t make me feel so much feminine as comforted. Hard to explain. Safe and…comfortable.)
Of course, I have that one photo to the side (which IS me, Ms. Sheila, no matter what you two think) but that isn’t a good indicator of what I look like. For one thing, I have only worn my black lipstick a few times since then and I haven’t worn the cape at all. Also, I have a whole face and head, which isn’t obvious from that photo.
While I don’t blog anonymously, as my friends and some of my family members (and now, introducing, a current coworker!) know of and read this blog, I still have been quite careful to keep my distinguishable face out of this. Neal and I were discussing this because he obviously has no qualms about putting his cute-headed self all over his blog but…I still don’t know if I want to do so.
I don’t have a reason not to, really, other than it doesn’t feel right to me, at least not now. I don’t think anyone is going to stalk me and try to kill me. I don’t think that people are going to take one look at me and think, “Oh, my! She’s the freakiest thing I’ve ever seen. I can’t stand to look at her and am never coming to her blog again for fear of being confronted with this visage again!” I don’t think that anyone even cares to know what I look like, so much. I just…don’t know what the deal is.
How do you decide to put yourself out there and open up the blog to your own face? Does appearance really matter when you’re reading a blogger’s posts? Do you want to see what they look like or…do you even think about it much? Most bloggers I read I have seen pictures of but even those that don’t? I put a face to the words in my own head and go on. I’m a big one for the movie of the story in my head, complete with my own characters with their own features and mannerisms.
I don’t know that it matters. Maybe I should just put the pics up since many of my readers know what I look like anyway. (While most of Neal’s friends haven’t met me, I know he’s shown most of them pictures at some point.) Maybe I should keep it the way it is so I don’t do it and regret it later. *shrugs* I don’t know what I’ll decide.
Who wants to see this freaky face anyway?
I DO!
Ohhhhh.
Too excited on that. I WANT to see your face, but it is in NO WAY freaky. Sheesh, dearest.
As for my blog and its pics, I dunno. I don’t mind people seeing my face too much. I don’t know that I’d want to put my address in there or anything, but yeah. I suppose it partially has to do with me being comfortable with being published eventually. It’s weird to have people be able to find out about you, etc. from not you or someone close to you, but I get used to it.
I still get freaked out when someone new that I know (or just off the internet) starts reading stuff in my blog. But I dunno… that’s why I write it anyways.
But I can understand not wanting to put a pic up of yourself. For sure. But I’m sure we’d all be fine with you doing it. Especially if it’s my Framerrific! picture of you. That’s a good one, if I do say so myself, hehe.
Post ‘em! No biggie.
Neal: You see my face all the time, goofball. People can find you quite easily, actually, just by searching your name. My name is a bit more common so I can hide a bit better (although not if people know about you and then search for you, afterwards finding me. *laughs*) I’d have to see your pic of me again to remember. (Yes, even though I just saw it a week ago on that box. You just say so because you took the pic.) You mainly have friends reading your blog…and have actively tried to keep it that way, remember? *winks* I have friends, family, and a coworker reading this so…it really doesn’t have anything to do with people “finding out” what I look like: Most of you already know!
Josh: Hmmmm…I’m still debating. It is something of a deal to me and I’ve thought about it a lot here and there. Either way, it probably won’t go up here but on my photoblog where it’d belong a bit more. We’ll see what I decide.
I’d disagree with the assertment that it’s no biggie, but I still think there’d be no problem with you doing it. Your call, though!