So a little over a year ago, my sister had our second niece. Shortly before, as is usual, someone threw a shower for my sister.
I live in Northern Minnesota; my sister lives in Central Illinois. Okay, that’s out of the way. My aunt-by-marriage (in the same area as the rest of my family) is the one who threw the shower for my sister, and I never received an invitation or any notice that it was going on. In fact, I heard of it the week before the event when I called my sister to check in on her pregnancy, and she asked me if I had received my invitation. Um, no. Even my sister didn’t know that my aunt hadn’t sent me an invitation. My aunt’s excuse was that she knew I wouldn’t be able to attend since I live so far away, so she didn’t want to waste the money on postage or a card.
Cue a couple days ago. I received an invitation to my 17-year-old cousin’s baby shower. There’s a LOT more to this story, but suffice it to say that it’s not a pretty tale at all. How, all of a sudden, do I rate an invitation to my aunt’s and uncle’s daughter’s shower, but I don’t rate an invitation to my own sister’s shower? They know and understand that I won’t be able to attend this one either.
I guess my gift is welcome at their shower, though. Or, at the very least, desired. In fact, they are registered at several places (and I do mean quite a few), and I am also welcome to buy cases of diapers and be entered into a raffle in addition to the gift I bring from one of those registries.
Too bad I’m not paying to ship something down there in this case, eh? I guess they wasted a card and postage on the woman who “won’t be able to make it down here anyway”…
This kind of thing riles me up. I abhor gift-wrangling in this manner.
That is ridiculous! I would be super hurt.
I actually was hurt that I wasn’t even invited to my own sister’s shower, but I figured that if she didn’t send it to any family member out of town, that was fine. But when I just got this card for her daughter, I was flabbergasted and just plain ticked off.